A revolutionary guide to a journey of growth and self-awareness through human emotions that revisits and overturns every coaching and performance cliché: success isn’t just a matter of mind, but also of heart.

The first commandment of our society is: run, compete, be productive, reach your goal. The only way we know to survive is by sacrificing our most intimate part on the altar of performance, losing sight of ourselves because we don’t know our own emotions. We have cut out our heart so we can focus with our head. Nicoletta Romanazzi, a mental coach for twenty years, knows that the heart, emotions and feelings represent the most powerful resource we have: you cannot reach the heights without butterflies in your stomach. These butterflies must be channelled, of course… but how can you do that if you can’t even feel them anymore?

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Do you know what you really want? Do you know why you want it? In that case, what’s stopping you from going out to get it? The “non-method” of the mental coach behind the Tokyo 2020 sensational Italian victories is finally explained in a personal growth handbook that is practical, enlightening, and which will change your life.

Preface by Marcell Jacobs

 We often know all too well what we don’t want, but, on the other hand, have no idea of what we do want. Allowing yourself to wish is a powerful act, because having a loud and clear dream to follow is worth more than having the material resources needed to make it come true; however, it could also be scary because it means being forced to tackle potential fears connected with that dream.

Nicoletta Romanazzi likes to define hers as a “non-method” and describes herself as a mirror, which, when placed before another person, helps them truly see themselves. With each individual, she puts her “magic” into practice and, after that, no dream – however ambitious – seems unreachable anymore. Because the point isn’t to win. The point is to become the best version of ourselves